It is time to get a more formal financial protection and arrangement in place. You see how easily H justified his actions; what’s he going to do next? This will soothe him for a while, but his demons are not sated. He is driven to run.
I agree I need to do this My attorney never contacted me today, but I will reach out to her tomorrow or Thursday when the kids are back at school. Hard to get privacy these days for phone calls!
One of the questions I need to ask is how to protect myself financially when we are in a state with no legal separation. I am a bit nervous about this, as he could change his paycheck to another bank at any time (in spite of him saying he doesn't plan to do this). Believe nothing......I do have other funds and won't be kicked out of the house, but I would not want to use them if possible (although H could care less, since he took our a ton for his new pad). Anyway - strategy I need to discuss with my A.
Today was better. D20 blocked H from her phone and facebook. She said she is relieved she doesn't have to be the adult in their relationship anymore. Ouch. I listen and validate. S22 has had some e-mail exchangse with H. He read me a few. H said that he told him he would inform them of any change and planned to do so. (Lie). He said that our marriage was none of his concern, stuff like that. He is being ridiculous. I just listened. S22 is gullible, so we'll see if he gets over this fast based on lies. I continue to be the rock for the kids, and polite to H when I have to interact. I had to withdraw $1,200 from our bank account today for college expenses for the kids. I sent a bring message to H informing him I did so. (I didn't want him to think I was taking $ to hide). He said he didn't need his September $ for a while anyway. All business.
After I get the kids to school tomorrow, I get on plane to spend some time with my family. Came exactly at the right time.
