Mostly this is a reflection on how I've made some improvements but I can still see my old tendencies poking through.
My anxiety is largely due to the unpredictable nature of what is going to set off my W.
And I recognize this is not her problem, it is my problem.
I'm not afraid of how this impacts any chances of R. I am afraid of her on the timeshare issue given the way she talks sometimes about child safety, even though I feel her concerns are unfounded at this point. I am not afraid on the finance issue, other than that her nitpicking wears me down.
And part of my fear is just conflict avoidant behavior. I have to fight through it. Use these experiences as practice.
I'm thinking about going into the conversation with a simple mindset:
- Don't agree to anything unless I really agree. Otherwise, say "I'll consider it and get back to you" - Don't get emotionally triggered. - If W gets emotionally triggered, end the call and reschedule. - Stay firm but friendly
