I read on here and I have talked about the “fog”. Is there really one? I have not seen my w even remotely look like she was coming out of it, like I said I really believe she loves this new found freedom.
It took my XW years before she started acting like her old self. And she has slowly been transforming to who she used to be, although she does still retain elements of the "new her" too. She's gone through a transformation of sorts. My XW actually loves her "freedom" too, she's doing a lot of traveling now. We never did much traveling during our M, but it wasn't a priority for her then, her family was her number one priority. She still loves the kids and yes she loves me and she enjoys doing stuff with them and with me. But she is much more independent now. More power to her, I think it's great. You've got to get to that point too, where you no longer blame her but accept that whatever she is going through is bigger than you and bigger than her and she needs room to explore it and see where it goes. Maybe it'll lead back to you and maybe not, but if you truly love her you will be happy for her no matter what.
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I really miss my kids when I don’t have them.
Of course you do. But it's inevitable that they will grow up and move away at some point anyway. Much as a joy as parenthood is, it's fleeting. You need to find who you are as a person as well as a parent. And when you have your parenting time be the ultimate dad. When you don't have them then be the ultimate Wolfman.
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Let’s put it this way too. My Siberian husky is 16. That’s really old for a big dog to live that long. Well she has a little trouble walking on occasion, when she sits for a while it’s hard for her to get up, but once she is up she is fine. My w said the other day, I think we should put her down. I said why, because she can’t always walk, I said she is just slow getting up but once she is up she is fine. She then proceeded to say to me, then you can take care of her. She doesn’t want any responsibility and basically wants to put my dog down because she doesn’t want to take care of it anymore.
You should really make arrangements- move or whatever it takes so that the dog is under your care. That's a lot of responsibility that your W doesn't want. That is a VERY advanced age for a Husky.
