Yes Hope, that is exactly the problem with trying to be friends. In the months after BD we want to jump on every crumb as a sign that things are turning around, and what better sign then our WAS being friendly to us? That's got to be the ultimate sign that a recon is imminent! So every time they say something nice we get all fired up, maybe temp check and get slapped right back down again. Over and over. THIS is why we say not to let things get into the friendzone, because it really spoils your detachment and messes with your zen! There is ample time later for the friendzone, but for now you need time and space as much as he does. Just FYI I spent a good year detached from my XW before opening the door to being friends, and we've been friendly ever since. Once you've detached you can do it successfully I think, but you've got to give yourself a solid year to detach.
