Midlife wife crisis9

[Wolfman]

When I say your in a fog I meant your stuck in your own fog and don't seem to moving forward. I get that you like to vent here but to me it doesn't seem to be productive. We can't help you when you keep saying the same thing over and over.

Thank you for clearing that up. I know venting is no productive but it does make me feel better. Thanks for kicking my butt!!! I am moving forward I got my second career moving again. Reconnected with friends, going to the gym 5 days a week, going out more with friends and by myself, back into playing sports. So I would say I am moving forward just on here you hear my worse. Just the mornings are bad, for some reason those are the times I am moist depressed. But I get my butt to the gym and then I feel better. Soon as school starts again it will be a healthy distraction. I know it doesn’t seem like it but I am listening to you guys. This forum is my support and when you give it to me straight it helps, may not seem like it but it does.

Wolf,

I have been at this a year

What have you accomplished in this time?

when things were really not that bad.

Things were really bad. You were just using the wrong measuring stick. You are still using the wrong measuring stick.

But if she were to look at the big picture logically

She makes decisions based off of feelings and emotions. Two different measurement systems.

How she didn’t even want to try, not even once and making it work.

She did. You were the one not trying. She finally gave up. Then you woke up out of your fog.

I really miss my kids when I don’t have them..... She actually asked me when she goes away if I want the kids?

Then you take them every single time she offers. You document it. At some point, you then change up the custody agreement.

Just watching the wives with their husband makes me sad. I miss that dynamic I also realize my w wasn’t really like that with me. I see such love between these couples I miss it!!

So she wasn't like this with you but you miss it??



The million dollar questions:

How long do you want to keep punishing yourself?
Are you still stand for your marriage?

Read what I wrote at the top what has changed in the past year. Thank you for hitting me with this. I work from logic and she works from emotion. What you said makes sense, all of it. As far as the million dollar question, I am ready to move on, I know the way I speak on here doesn’t seem like it but I am. I miss the 4 of us as a family. That’s all. I need to get over it and I know it will get better. I feel better. I am off all of my AD. Yes I am doing this with the doctor watching me. I don’t cry as much. I try and find the good in life each day and focus on that.