I was thinking that maybe the divorce went through (I NEVER RESPONDED TO THE SERVICE). Long story short. I was thinking that the D went through maybe and that's why he changed his status. I wasn't technically served because it wasn't sent certified mail or by someone in person... My S had an emergency surgery right after (the day after) I received the mail. It was probably delivered when all 4 of us were at Disney for family vacation.
Either way I messed up big time, but I feel like I handled the situation okay-ish by being brief, seeming up-beat, and getting off the phone first.
I contacted an attorney today to answer the service and contest the No Fault. He said how do you know you aren't already divorced???
Anyway the conversation w/ H
I kept it brief, sounded sweet and just asked if anything happened with the paperwork that he filed last fall. He said no why, and I told him that a family member asked if we were okay bc of his status and I was embarrassed but I didn't know until I checked and I thought maybe he knew something I didn't. I'm pretty sure he is lying, but he said that when I deactivated my FB account, it removed his marital status and changed it to single...
Anyway he said nothing came of it and he hasn't had time to figure out what to do with the settlement that I sent him in the spring because he felt like it was unfair. I told him that I was sorry he felt that way and that perhaps mediation would be beneficial and he agreed. He said he wanted to talk later, I told him appreciated him taking my call and got off the phone real quick.
I am glad that I have some answers. Mostly about him not pursuing the D. The FB thing is probably not true. I'm going to try to google it to see if I can figure it out.
