She claims that for her to have done the things she has done in the past year that it is clear she doesn't love me.
Well yeah, but she has it backwards. Love is a VERB, not a noun. It's something you DO. It's an ACTION that you choose to take or not take. This is real life, not Hollywood. Love takes hard work to maintain once you are past the limerence phase. Your wife CHOSE to quit loving you. Whatever she thinks you did wrong in the M, she could have chosen to work with you on it and continue loving you. But without your consent or permission, she instead unilaterally chose NOT to love you. So "the things she has done in the past year" are 100% on her, NOT you. Right?
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She has stated that the one night affair made her realize that she is desired and that she can find someone else.
Yup, and she will repeat this cycle all over again.
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She claims she now realizes she has a choice in her own happiness and her life regardless of what people think.
She is right. She doesn't realize that she could choose happiness WITH you. She will hopefully realize that some day.
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I am going to continue to follow Sandi's rules and pray for the best outcome for my family.
