Unchein, I'd be interested to hear why you believe it is a bad idea? My reasoning is that it focuses on her, not me, and that I'm empathising with how betrayed she feels.
Dan,
I completely understand this strong instinct to write an apology letter. I've been there. You are probably reading advice from people like myself and thinking... yeah yeah yeah these are disgruntled vets and things didn't go their way. There are people here who have reconciled... I have yet to find a case where a letter was the magic wand.
You don't have kids, you're going to split assets 50/50, I would not worry about the legal implications of the letter.
I am going to respond with a bit of a trick question for you:
How do you hope your W will respond to this letter?
