Midlife wife crisis9

[Wolfman]

LH. I have learned so much from the book. Actually was reading it just now. This book is me. Everything in this book is what I have done and experienced. I never would have thought being a nice guy would have so much blow back. Unfortunately you are right of this fantasy family. I tried to be the opposite of my father by helping my w with everything and being around all the time, and look where it got me. I know my w sees the changes in me already, her accepting them is another story. I am definitely make a lot of changes. Went back to playing baseball, playing flag football hanging out with more of my guy friends. All the things my w took away from me because she said I was not home enough.

Also I am not ignoring reality. It just has been a very slow process for me to accept it. I know this is how it is, there is nothing I can do but make myself the best me possible. You say I’m in a fog, what exactly do you mean by that? Outside of this forum I am different. I show confidence, happiness, energy. All of my friends said they have seen such a change in me. This is my safe space to vent. My kids have noticed a change in me too. They say I don’t yell and scream anymore like I use to. I’m more patient with them. Now my w is constantly yelling at them and I am talking with them.