Spoke with H. Asked him about his imminent purchase of condo with OW. He blamed, deflected, accused. It was not pretty. But, bottom line. He is using marital assets to buy a place with her. He's an idiot. He couldn't even say it. He said "She is buying a place, and I am contributing". Again, he's an idiot.
After I called him, he immediately sent two urgent messages to our financial advisory asking if I called him. Financial advisor called me and told me. Short story is: I told him to not get drawn into our drama.
Kids were told about H's purchase and OW. Tough, tough, tough night. Hatred. Accusations of H being a coward (true). Liar. (true). Emotional unavailable. (true). Tears from D20 lasting over an hour. Broken hearts. D20 is desperate for an emotional connection from her dad. He is giving it elsewhere. Ouch.
I'm glad it's out though. H actually said to me there is no reason we can't continue to go on as we are. That he plans to just take his normal amount since October. He does not have plans to file for D. "Lot's of people live like this". He asked me if I wanted one. I said I didn't know what I was going to do.
He's an idiot.
I told him I never signed up for an open marriage. I don't live like this.
I will speak with my attorney tomorrow. I don't plan to file for D today. I will give it time for emotions to settle.
But, it's coming.
There was lots, lots more said between H and I. Deflection, blame, and more blame (from him on me, of course). And veiled threats how he is paying for everything.
The devil has a good hold on H.
I'll continue to pray for him, while protecting my family. God would want me to protect my family.
