Yes, it’s incredibly painful. My H told me many times that he didn’t believe me (this was all before I discovered DBing so I was apologizing, telling him I love him, etc) and that was so, so hard to hear. When I cried he told me he thought it was inauthentic, and when I held it together he told me that my lack of tears was a sign I didn’t mean what I was saying. It gutted me. I’ve never experienced being told that someone I love doesn’t trust me before all of this. It’s been really difficult.
That suitcase analogy for vulnerability is a really good one! I’ll be thinking that one over for a while.
