I have kind of done this.

To the first quote, she said "I'm sorry, this is horrible."

I texted back "It must have been so hard for you to go through the terrible process of filling in the divorce application form. This is all horrible. You don't need to apologise at all. I really am sorry."

She is going on holiday on Thursday 22nd for a week. I am writing her a letter where I'm explaining how I messed up and offering some empathy for her - i.e. make the letter about HER ("I'm sorry you feel like this etc.") instead of about me ("I will do anything to make it right.").

I don't like the thought of never seeing her again. I don't want to cut her out of my life.


Me - 36, W - 32
No kids
T - 8 yr, M - 3 yr
Discovery - 14 May 2019
S - 25 May 2019 & D bomb - 29 July 2019
D & House sale final - Feb 2020