The biggest thing I struggle with is WHY,,, the OW is necessary for so many of our spouses.
I have heard the AP's are often inferior in character and often have disordered personalities.
My H describes his OW to people as 'beautiful' and is always asking people what they think of her. My adult children tell me she looks old and mousey,,, not beautiful. Beer mug (nose always curled up like she is smelling something rotten). Weird mannerisms. Selfish person who doesn't treat people all that well.
What is going on in our spouses head that they see these people as 'beautiful' and think everyone else does too when no one else sees anything beautiful?
I really hope one day he has a revelation and sees her as she is - not beautiful,,, inside or out.... but just nasty.
I just don't get it - why they go for these low life women when one day they will be appalled at their choices to toss everything for them.
Then,,, why,,,, can I not let this part of it go? I've read the advise to focus on me and let him and they be, over and over again. Hearing about the advice, believing the advice has value, is not all there is to it. How do I actually put the advice into practice? I am fixated on the 'why her' part of his crisis. How do I stop? !!
