It sounds as if your W can turn it on.......and turn it off, according to her mood. Is she giving you open mouth passionate kisses when having sex? To go from zero kissing to lots of kissing in the span of a few days is not impossible, but whether or not it will hold is the big question. A couple has to have more than just emotions to guide them in a relationship. It's a lot harder when you are trying to reconcile. That's why we talk about the importance of commitment. Feelings will be up & down in any MR. It's the commitment that holds the M together. Love is important, of course, but what I learned rather late in my life, is that love is a choice we make in our MR. We all love the feelings, b/c it's a lot easier when we are feeling it. What about those days life is throwing up on us and we aren't feeling the love?
Maybe your W is "trying" in her own way, but it seems to me that if she was really committed to saving the MR, she would stay in the MBR with you, instead of going back to her room after having sex. I'm just wondering if she is giving it a period of time to see if her feelings change.
I hope for your sake consistency abounds. Hope to hear from you more often.
((hugs))
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
