I've started a new thread but am unsure of how to link together. Sorry Job, I'm not very tech savvy!
Since coming back from our vacation things have been very up and down. H started a major row declaring our R dead etc etc.
We have since began to talk again. The problem I have with him is that he wants to talk about the R at any given chance. Basically, wants me to agree with him that we don't work and he should go. He apparently made loads of effort on vacation and I made none etc I obviously won't push him to go and want to see if he does this on his own.
When I found out about the ow there seemed to be some remorse, guilt etc but he said yesterday that he feels no guilt whatsoever. Wondering if that's to start a new row.
I am not deluded in that I believe he can just end things with the ow immediately, and after my phone coaching was advised not to give an ultimatum and be patient which I understand. I know he's constantly in touch with her. I think before I went on vacation I had made such progress in myself and was coping really well. Then we had a great time in a different environment and now we are back home I feel a little like the hurt is raw again and I need to get strong from square one.
The tricky point in our R is that H was due to start a Job at my work in September. We have not brought this up in conversation but I am wondering if he chooses to stay at his work with the ow, do I give an ultimatum then or just ride the waves still? I know though that this would add pressure and if I make him choose he will no doubt choose her. (Think I just answered my own question there!)
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