I turned 50 one month after BD and W moving in with OM. Yes, crushed is a most apt description of where you are, at the moment.
You have a half century of life and experiences, overcoming obstacles and living your accomplishments. Do enjoy, when you can, the celebration of your 50 years.
Yes, there will be tears, and you are facing a pretty big obstacle. Barranco, you will survive and find your way through this. Please accept this, that small fact and knowledge, a gift perhaps for a birthday - you will get through this.
Originally Posted by Barranco
I don’t want to be in love with someone who doesn’t exist anymore.
I understand.
Focus on you. Let those emotions settle. You cannot force this, emotions have to run their course. You, however, can focus your attention towards you, your three kids, and two grandkids.
In time, you will discover detachment and find indifference. And the peace they bring.
Further along, the very thing you don’t want right now you might just find you willing accept and embrace. The path takes time to walk, with many small steps. Keep focus on what you’ve accomplished and towards the next step.
Enjoy the week.
DnJ
Feelings are fleeting. Be better, not bitter. Love the person, forgive the sin.
