i sometimes wonder if God allows these horrible abuses of our H's vow to protect us so that we will surrender the marriage to Him. It's weird how that financial stuff hit me harder than the affairs and all the rest of it. It wasn't until my H started down the path of a vicious divorce and tried to destroy me financially that I realized there was truly nothing I could do.
After a long spiral, I also realized that I did not have to know what was going to happen to me as a woman, and that I could also pray that God would send me a man to love -- it might be my H or it might be someone else, God's ways are inscrutable, and his mercy is infinite, as Father Arseny says!
(((Grace)))))
My advice from the mountain -- Do you what you have to do with clarity and truth, but remember that this is all the World. Don't lose your awareness that the Spirit is where we truly live, don't let bitterness take hold of you even as you protect yourself and your kids. And I think you are spot on, do not talk to H about it. Deflect his financial blows but don't fall into throwing punches, you will be mightily tempted once the court of law comes into your marriage!
I believe I will see the bounty of the Lord in the land of the living. Wait for the Lord with courage. Be stouthearted, and wait for the Lord.
