Well your ex signed up for that ride. Sorry he died, alcoholism and cancer are horrible diseases. But it must make you feel a bit like "Really? You traded me for that mess?"

Whatever. Not your circus not your monkeys. I hope your life is going well. I'm at chemo right now with my boyfriend of 15 months who was diagnosed with stage 3 lung cancer a year ago. (Nonsmoker). Stuff like that makes you live in the present and value each day.