I wanted to share something another poster wrote recently. His name is Phoenix, whose W is with OM#2. He had never dated anyone before he met his W. He had no friends, and no life outside his marriage. He had such a difficult time last year, and really struggled GAL, meeting new people, making friends, and basically reinventing himself. I give him a lot of credit for not giving up on himself. In the face of rejection, he was determined to make changes in his life. He sent us an update, and closed the post with the following words:
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I will be forever grateful for all of the support you have given me in the last year. I have said this constantly throughout my journey but I will always repeat it over and over again. You not only saved my life, but have helped me turn it into something even better - something that I thought would never happen.
For those who are currently struggling through your situations, I will echo the same thing numerous folks have said here time and time again: Keep fighting. Keep hoping. Keep going. It will get better. Reconciliation is not the true goal here. Rediscovering yourself and your happiness is the goal. Reconciliation is just something that may come as a bonus. And if it does not, you will still be a better man/woman coming out of this.
Thanks for sharing, Sandi2! I just went to read his last update, seems like he is doing really well for himself and much happier in general. I honestly wouldn't know where I would be if it wasn't for this forum. I am not going to lie, still on that rollercoaster ride for me since meeting up with her for D back to school night this past Wednesday. Too many memories were brought back, got derailed a bit and trying to get on the right track again.
I will continue to fight the fight. I will keep going for my D and myself. I am really glad I have you all for listening and giving advice, for just helping me understand what I am going through is normal.
