I agree with you and I am trying to do everything I’ve been told by you guys. I do have expectations that MC is going to turn things around, but that it will just take time. I don’t think my situation is any different, buthere are some exceptions. Also, I’m just trying not to hurt myself any further.
With that said, this feeling comes and goes, but I don’t know how to deal with it. I would love some advice. I’m feeling that I’m sure if I want to continue on this path anymore. I know that I really do, but sometimes I just get this feeling that I don’t care about it anymore. Maybe it’s normal, but I don’t want to have that feeling.
Any advice?
Originally Posted by AnotherStander
H, I really do get that you want this to work and I see that you are really pinning a lot of hopes on MC to turn things around. But it WILL NOT WORK. We are all telling you this and your response is always the same "I hear you say XYZ, BUT..." In other words, you think you are an exception. You think your sitch is different. IT IS NOT. We are not trying to discourage you, we are trying to explain to you that you are on the wrong path to recon. Your recon is absolutely, positively not imminent and won't happen through MC (which even your own W told you she doesn't see as MC). Possible recon is WAY down the road. You've got to let go of the notion that some miracle is happening here. Just relax, step back, stop pursuing, let her go, focus on you. I would suggest you stop going to MC, but if you want to continue then have ZERO expectations. Quit apologizing, surely you've done enough of that. Just listen and validate (validating is NOT apologizing). Don't talk unless you have to, and if you have to, then be very brief.
