Midlife wife crisis9

[Wolfman]

Hi there. It’s been a few days but a lot has gone on. First off I have been reading NMMNG and all I have to say is wow, that is me. It’s sad to see that is nice guys really do finish last. I’m about 70 pages in and I love it. It’s really got me to open my eyes. You all are right about me not going in the house. There is no point. A lot has happened thee last few days.
So last Monday my w text me that she wanted to switch days Friday and Thursday (I have the kids usually Friday). I told her she could not that I already made plans for me and the kids. Of course the typical spew through text, that I do t want to switch why would I do that? It’s not fair, blah blah blah. I just text her back sorry you feel that way but it’s my day with the kids. I didn’t respond to anymore texts. My buddy moved to South Carolina and was coming up for the week so we made plans 3 weeks ago. NOt changing them for her. Evidently w made plans with friends of ours to go to the beach before she asked me, not my problem. So she had to cancel on them. Let’s just call them and. And Ames. Smith just so it’s easy to follow. Everything is top secret with her so I did not know this. So Friday just as I’m about to head out the vineyards to meet up with my buddy and other friends, Mrs. Smith called me and asked what I was doing? I said I am going out to the vineyards. What are you doing? She said you w was suppose to go to the beach with us but cancelled and some of the other families did too. I told them come out to the vineyards then. She said sure. At the vineyards I pulled mr. and mrs Smith aside and said be prepared she is going to be kissed at you guys for coming here with me. They both said why? I said I know how she is just be prepared. They said we are not here to pick sides. I told them I wasn’t asking you to or never would ask you too. I don’t care how many times you hang out with w but I know how she will respond. They said if she says anything we will deal with it. I said ok but you are warned.

Sunday mr and mrs Smith were having a birthday party for their son who was turning 10 at a bowling alley. Mrs smith sent out a group text to all the parents about the party I was on it and so was my w. Party started at 2 I got here 2:10. As I walked in I see my w sitting by herself texting away and not talking to anyone. Which I thought was odd. I went over and said hello to the parents her sister and brother in law the kids and I said hello to my w, I got a very cold hi. I just figured it must be one of the odd days for her. Keep back 500 feet. Lol so I’m talking to all the parents at the party and then I get a text from her. “You really are something. I’m so glad I didn’t buy into the I changed bull$h*t. You are the same nothing has changed.” Totally confused I wrote what’s the matter. She responds you make me laugh it’s all done ... Karma. I know I shouldn’t have engaged but asked what are you talking about. She wrote live with yourself. I need to keep reading NMMNG, I probably just would have left it at that. I went over to her and said what’s going on? She said I see right through you and how phony you are and so does everyone else. You and everyone here is phony. Once she said that I knew it was about the vineyards. At that point I just walked away. Then 15 minutes later she gets up and storms to the front of the bowling alley. Mrs smith goes after her to talk to her. They are in the front of the bowling alley and you can see my w is laying into her. Mr smith says to me what’s going on, I said to him it’s about the vineyards. He said you think I said I am pretty sure. So my w is yelling at Mrs smith during her son’s birthday party for about 10 minutes. Her sister goes we want to do cake but we need my sister here. I said I know. She said in 2 minutes I’m going over there to get my sister that this is ridiculous. About 1 minute later my comes speed walking back to the party. Mrs Smith is slow walking you can see she is really upset. We sing happy birthday to her son then my w grabs the kids and leaves, the party wasn’t over. So I asked mrs Smith was that about the vineyards? She said yes. That my w said that she betrayed her by going, that she should have told her she was going out there with me(that makes me laugh, they have to report to my w). That she didn’t know I was going to the birthday party. Mrs smith said I was on the group text, she said she didn’t see my name, mrs smith said well that’s not her problem. Last w said to mrs smith that she should have told her I was coming to prepare her and that for now on let her know when I will be around so she is prepared. Prepared for what? Were we going to have a boxing match? Does anyone else have a w that is as crazy as mine?
These have been friends of ours for 10 years going away together, the kids call us uncle and she said she is done with them. They betrayed her trust and will never trust them again.