Hi all , not really an update but more on how following this site's advice can be the saving of you and possibly your marriage. I won't re hash my sitch but when i first came here i was fortunate enough to be advised by members and experts alike. When you arrive you are in a terrible place and despair , pain etc can cloud your thoughts and judgement. I saw people had been on here for years and it shocked me because i thought i wouldnt be one of those but the reality is this takes time , either to heal and move forward or stand for your M. This post is more for those who are standing ( which i didn't). The site talks alot about the fog of WAS and i got an email a few days ago from Exw , she is now a year into counselling and she told she feels she has now emerged from a fog. She is full of regret and apologies and is trying to get her life back on track.
My post is to re affirm this sites guidance. Almost everything it tells us has happened in my case and if i had decided to stand i believe that there may have been a future for the M.
So again , follow the sites advice , get a life , work on you and re your spouse , follow the sage words from the site.
Just wanted to encourage those that may be standing or not. Life does get better , this is a huge change but it is now here so it must be dealt with and you finding this site is a huge advantage.
