I feel like I know the answer to this but does not replying to texts ever seem a bit rude? I haven’t been replying to a lot of her texts lately and I wonder if this could come across as holding a grudge or something. For instance if I text someone and they don’t reply l know i get a little pissed.
The idea is to look like you are busy with your life and not particularly anxious to communicate with her because she's no longer your focus. Sometimes reply right away, sometimes a few hours later, sometimes not at all. That will make her think you are too busy for her. Now if you never, ever reply or if you reply in a very cold/ angry manner then she'll think it's rude.
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I know the circumstances are different with her leaving me and all but I’ve said and acted in some pretty negative ways before BD and a big focus of mine currently is removing these negative actions.
There are appropriate and inappropriate 180's. To give you a rather obvious example, if you never initiated sex before BD and that was one of her complaints, then after BD do you think it would be a good idea to be in her face trying to have sex all the time? Clearly not. You do 180's on the things that make sense and make you a better person. Not on the things that will do more harm than good (like trying to be chummy in texts).
