Not sure, maybe an online calculator. I definitely agree w. the state calculation because it's a flat rate then 1/2 the childcare expenses (it varies monthly).
I definitely learned my lesson as far as the gifts go. This is the 1st year I didn't buy his grandmother something for her bday. He did get me a gift from "the kids" after I told him not to for my birthday. I ended up returning it and buying my daughter some things that she needed and I did get myself something I needed too. Going forward I'm just going to do my own thing.
I have raised the issue and his stance has been that he shouldn't have to pay the full amount bc he has to purchase a plane ticket to see the kids. I try to listen and validate but part of me thinks that's what happens when you move across the country to leave your family for a job...
I am really considering the telephone coaching sessions to get a plan in place. I feel confident I'm doing well, then like I'm spiraling..
