Now what?

[BarbH]

For sure cautious. I didn't give him any log in information. Right now we are splitting all the bills 50/50 and that includes credit card debt and line of credit payments. I will share the statements, but I'm not sharing login. I am talking to my bank on Saturday-looks like they will refi our mortgage and we can pay out all the consumer debt. Then life becomes simpler. He stills wants me to stay here for a year-and our agreement stipulates 50/50 payment mortgage, utilities, insurance. Gives me the opportunity to get the property and house organized for sale, and buys me some time so I don't do anything rash. So I guess we will still be in touch re the house. He's saying things like "we need to get firewood in for the winter", and "if I want to stay in town while I'm working my shifts, he'll come stay with the dog". Whether that's true or not, I have no idea.

Sometimes I think maybe it's the truth that he does just find it too much here, and wants some time away to sort his head out. But then I think of some of the things he's said and done lately, and how he and everyone around him just keeps saying "he's confused" and I just don't know.

It's his 60th tomorrow. Do I acknowledge it? Text message?