G - I will say it has taken me time to get used to and have had to find my attraction in other ways. I have had to find my attraction in how sweet she is and how feminine she is towards me, submissive. I am still learning how to figure it out though. Any smart man, one that was mature, would want a woman like the dr. assuming they were attracted.
Her turning it up makes me feel neutral but it also gives me confidence. All along I have felt in control of my emotions and it doesn't bother me because I know that ultimately I am not married yet and that is my choice to make. I have no problems with my girls meeting her because again she is such a good person and I know that they are better off for it even if we ultimately don't get married.
IMO women like you and the dr. need a giver and not a taker. You need someone that really appreciates all the things you do for your man not just take it for granted. I often tell the dr. how sweet she is, how caring, how loving, how giving, how lucky I am that I met her. Sure I say I love you but again, IMO sometimes those are just words and doesn't necessarily convey why.
Men love bitches because they pose a challenge, they are not easy to obtain, they play games, you don't know where they stand, they don't make plans, they don't initiate contact, the essentially want the man to do all the work.
Knowing what I know now that is not a way to build a relationship. The dr. makes it easy on me, lets me be the man, doesn't [censored] test me, lets me lead, really helps give me confidence in my role as a leader. I think that is what a good woman does.
I have read a lot and learned a lot but there is way more to it then how they look. Again, I am still a work in progress
