Question: when a guy is the LBS they are encouraged to become an alpha male. How should a female LBS carry herself? Some suggestions would be great. Thanks!
That's a great question to ask. It's along the same lines. Be strong, independent, lose weight if you need to, exercise, spruce up your wardrobe. Project to your H that you don't need him, that you are recovering and detaching. The idea of all of this is to rebuild your confidence and self-worth. If you do these things you will start feeling better about yourself, you'll feel more confident and other people are going to notice and compliment you and that in turns boosts your ego. That confidence is eventually what may attract him back again. No one is attracted to sad, needy, desperate people. But strong, confident people are very attractive.
Way back before I was married I broke up with a girl I was dating and she was super sad and needy and desperate. I could not get away from her fast enough! Much later I dated and broke up with another girl who was the opposite, her attitude was "your loss" and she never looked back. She became distant and mysterious, and THAT made me wonder if I had made the right decision. It's just human nature, we don't want what comes easy to us but we do want what seems difficult to obtain.
