So we have arrived back from our family holiday, 2 weeks away together.
After a bumpy first 2 days of him picking on everything I did we had a brilliant time together. Originally H had said that he may go for a week then come home but stayed the whole time. He even suggested before we went that we went out separately on days out with the kids. When we were there we did everything together and there was no mention of this.
There was a spare bedroom at the villa which H slept in for 2 random nights out of 15 but the rest he slept in the same bed as me. I made no comment when he slept in the spare room or when he rejoined me.
There was a lot of flirty behaviour and we did have a night of intimacy. I believe him to still be in a lot of contact with the ow but have not commented or asked etc.
We returned home yesterday and as I suspected things have gone back to the way they were before we went away. H is saying again that we don't work, have anything in common, trying to convince himself that life with me is miserable etc etc.....
He is saying that we don't talk or have meaningful conversations anymore which we haven't since this began in May. I have kept conversation to a minimum while doing 180s.
Shall I keep conversation still to a minimum or shall I make more conversation but as a friend? I had my first telephone coaching while away and was advised to treat him as a house guest which I am doing.
The only other issue I have is that he is now trying to be intimate quite a lot - mainly for his own pleasure not mine. Im not sure how I should deal with this as although it's something I want to get back to, I find it quite controlling and this obviously doesn't fit into treating him as a house guest! The other issue is that there is no attempt to kiss me which makes me feel like its more about attending to his needs and nothing else.
On the other hand I don't know if knocking him back will make things worse as this was one of our relationship issues in that he felt rejected.
