I think I'm lucky that she hasn't been unpleasant and seems to enjoy my company - hence the alarm bells when you mentioned plan B.
My XW started out treating me mean like a lot of WAS's do. But early on she actually approached me about it, said she was doing it because she thought it would help me(!!!!) detach and want to divorce, but she could see it was hurting me instead so she was going to stop doing it. And she did, she was pretty kind and polite after that throughout the rest of our M and through S and (mostly) through D. So nice in fact that a few times I thought things must be turning around and I temp checked her. Every time I did I got promptly slapped back down to reality, she never stopped being full-steam-ahead on S and D. So it's great that she's enjoying your company, that is certainly better than the alternative of your WAS being a jerk as is often the case around here. But don't let that confuse you, it doesn't mean her position is softening, at least not right now.
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Did you read the previous post about the golf weekend? I'd really like your views on that.
I did but I didn't fully understand it, so I'll go back and look at it again:
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Before I saw the email she contacted OM( who is not a member of our club ) and he said he would not attend if it meant bumping a member.( so he wouldn't go ). As she was telling me this it dawned on both of us that she couldn't share with OM and a huge grin formed on her face when she realised option 1 would work. That is what she has now booked. What is she playing at? It seems an extraordinary length to go to to keep me as plan B. There was no pleading with him to come( how would that make him feel ).
So OM recused himself, and the two of you are going to share a room and a bed?
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How should I play it on the day( not the golf )?
I would be inclined to treat her like a "friendly neighbor", be kind and polite but no relationship talks at all. If she initiates an R talk then just listen and validate. If you're asking about being intimate, I would let her take the lead on that. Some WAS's want to keep having sex and others don't. Even if she does want to I wouldn't read anything to it.
