Moving forward 7

[Family Man]

Hi Alison, in answer to your question there are some good things going on here. But as I said he is only a bloke. In a relationship struggle he will feel tremendous pressure to prove himself quickly. Blokes tend to have a single focus and if he's trying to convince you that he's made the right changes he will expect quicker results than you do. He will be frustrated that you don't see the improvements as he does. It's a simple management problem - catch him doing things right and praise him for it. If he can relax in the knowledge that you have appreciated and support his efforts he can take time to concentrate on completing his transformation. Let him know that you value consistency over speed. It should boost his resolve and confidence that he is making real progress. But keep monitoring to make sure he doesn't get complacent. Good luck.