Does anyone on here have experience of telling the AP's wife, employer, or a role model? I have been waiting for this to play out in hopes of it coming out on its own. When I focus on the constant lies, deception, and betrayal I have strong thoughts in contacting some of these people. Truth is she doesn't love me anymore and I accept that fact. She could care less about my pain or what my boys are going to go through. Everyday this is a living hell to have to go home to an unresponsive wife. I thought about asking her to move out. A week ago I almost had her convinced to move out. Has anyone else had any experience on taking action and standing up for themselves? I don't want to fight with her but as I am getting stronger I feel more and more like I need to stand up for myself and tell her to go. Last Sunday I tried to tell her she needed to go ahead and file for divorce and we need to put the house up for sale. Of course she wanted to argue about who we would get to sell the house and got ugly about it. She got mad and said we needed to go ahead and just rip the bandaid off. This morning I told her I felt it wasn't fair for our sons to see us sleeping in different beds. She then claimed she was uncertain. She said she was sorting herself out. Trying to decide how she wanted to live her life. She claims she will make that choice based on how she has grown as a person and that she doesn't want anyone or anything to dictate that decision. She then proceeds to tell me she hates that I am hurting but she can't control that.
