I haven't made any moves. And if I hear from my kids about anything like this I will talk to XW about it.

But I disagree on your point that being called names is common. Not when it's to the point that it's constant. I've seen the results of that. My mom for one.

And the fact that XW is having thoughts that everyone would be better off if she didn't exist anymore combined with insults from new man is not a good combo. So in a bigger picture what is causing what?

Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.