Thanks again AS, I like your analytical approach even if the conclusions are painful. As regards the first section I believe she jumped when she did because she knew she was close to changing her mind( but still too little too late ). I've been advised that "getting into her head" and understanding her are very attractive in a partner - hence the poem. Do you have a view on that? I think it was a direct hit at getting her to question her decision without judging her. She became quite calm and friendly after I assured her that I did it for her rather than to further my own ends.
The laundry list is laughed at by everyone I've talked to about it. Very thin and inaccurate at times - I thought she may be trying( and failing ) to convince herself. Has she relegated me to plan B or is she finding it difficult to lose face and leave OM? I've seen that sort of behaviour in her before.
She has made other moves that seem positive precursors to getting back but they may be just contingency plans to keep me as plan B( which I hadn't considered before you mentioned it ). Is Plan B discussed anywhere on the site?
Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )
