Thank-you AS for this, a critical appraisal. Your first point is well made but while I have portrayed the crappiness in our R this happened after we had just enjoyed a 10 day holiday together. We Had a stunning 2 weeks after she dropped the bomb because I had woken up from my drunken stupor and realised what I wanted. I have smartened up my act and was fortunate enough to do it visibly before she left. I've lost 18 lb, I made her feel loved and we have spoken more intimately than ever. I've regained the energy I used to have to complete tasks in my life and shown an ability to meet some emotional needs that were unsatisfied. In summary we have enough in common to be good friends and I have demonstrated a commitment that was missing. The poem was my first ever. The notes were concise and clearly stated my commitment and new attitudes. I've generally avoided clinginess and dependency. I think I have achieved the cleanup of my act that you suggest and we are on the same page there.
So why do these seem positive to me?
I risked invading her head space which made her angry but she forgave me when we discussed it
The notes she wrote while angry were obviously for me and she pretended she didn't want me to see them although she brought them to my house and let me photocopy them.
She wouldn't care about my dating if she really thought she was moving on
Do you still see no positives?
Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )
