Moving on #3

[petri]

I don't think that she would do it. I do think that she has hit a rock bottom. The R she is having isn't the dream she was

having. She told me that the man hasn't seen our kids much b/c she doesn't want to involve him in their lives b/c she has

a gut feeling that the R is coming to an end. And the realization that our R actually wasn't that bad and that she D'd out of

her own identity crisis leaving our family broken. I don't want to feel what she is feeling. I think that a BD is nothing

compared to that. What it comes to helping her...I said that the only thing I can do for you is hope that you seek help for

yourself b/c you need it right now. She agreed.

One thing bothers me(I know it shouldn't). She said that she's let things be done to her, calling names/insults quite often.

I then mentioned that "as the father of our kids, if I am aware that you are in a relationship where there is emotional

violence, I am obligated to brimg this information to child services". She then said that there is nothing like that, you don't

know what you're talking about. We've just had a rough time a bit longer. Here's what bothers me: if I frequently call my

spouse a w*ore, idiot, stupid b*tch, tell her to go f*** herself etc., isn't that emotional violence? Have I misunderstood

something?