We are both divorcees. I thought the main reason to marry was stability for the children so I couldn't see the point. She wanted to get married quite early on but I said I wasn't up for it. If we didn't want to stay together I thought we should be free to split. I could say it backfired but the truth is that it was the OM that caused me to realise how I really felt. Without him we would still be in a rut and I would be numb. With him in the picture I am in great pain but aware of my emotions. If we get back together it will be a new beginning. She has said that she agrees with me about marriage now so I'm sort of easy either way if it's what she really needs.

Come you DBers any comments on the original post?

Last edited by Family Man; 08/12/19 03:11 PM.
Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )