Hoosjim's back... and maybe his WW, too (?)

[sandi2]

Heeeeey! I was just thinking about you and your W yesterday, and wishing we could hear from you. I didn't want any troubling news, but I'm really glad you decided to come talk about this update before allowing it to fester.

I'm really wanting to give your W the benefit of doubt on this one. We know her BFF is rotten and the worst influence for your W. I think she went alone with whatever the group wanted, and she knew you would probably have lots of questions if you knew they went to the old hangout. Do I think BFF chose that bar on purpose? I don't put it past her one bit.

I want to believe your W started feeling a bit uncomfortable for going there, and she started sending the texts.

When i return to hotel and plug it in, i get a series of backed up phone messages from her. Numerous: "Where are you... I miss you.. thinking of you" etc etc. Not unusual for us to send these types of texts these days... but this was a LOT of them.

Did the time on her text messages match the time your phone was down, or during the period you couldn't reach her? .

I send her a short text asking where she'd been...was her phone was off(?) and i get a really long text back how she missed me making it a point to tell me how she'd been telling her three friends how much she missed me, how good and helpful our marriage counseling had been, how it was now better than the honeymoon.... all of which raised alarm bells with me. It was the kind of thing she would do before in the bad old days when she knew she'd done something wrong and was trying to compensate. She followed it up with a racy picture of herself.

You ask one question and she never addresses it? Yes, I have to say it looks as if she was trying to avoid it. Perhaps she thought what you didn't know--wouldn't hurt you..........knowing how you feel about BFF arranging for her to meet OM at the bar in the past (or maybe it was another bar). Anyway, being a recovering WW, it was not wise to avoid your direct question. She should know by now that you will immediately pick up on how she skirts around it.

I could even see BFF arranging to "surprise" your W, by having OM at the bar (if he just happen to be in town)........and BFF thinking it would be funny. Twisted, but funny. However, your W didn't have to stay, since she had her own car and could leave any time. We could imagine all sorts of scenarios, but that doesn't help.

It does seem a bit overkill.......as if she wants to distract you from asking her more questions. What about the sexy photo? Did that surprise you, or is that the norm these past months?

I ask her about her evening and she just reiterates they went out for dinner and drinks at a well known spot at a local mall, they talked alot and caught up on things.

You were hoping she would tell you they went to the old hangout, without you asking. I could see her wanting to avoid all of it, but I don't understand the deal with her phone........unless she didn't want you picking up on the background noise.

My suggestion is to ask her to give you a direct answer on which bar they went to that night. The longer you hold on to this, the more it will eat at you.

How long has it been since last session with MC?