Thanks Steve, I was expecting that from a lot of people on this site because I was here 17 years ago trying to save my marriage. Hence my allusion to fraud at the start. This breakup doesn't hurt as deeply as the last but it still hurts like hell because I have woken up to my true feelings at last. I've been with her for 16 years so the relationship has a long term chance. I am sort of dating someone with enormous common interests as part of my plan to reduce codependency but I'm under no illusions that I wouldn't be back with the missus like a shot given the opportunity. The date is not currently love material so I have no conflict of interest. Time will tell but if she comes back it will be a different relationship( and I may still play bridge with the date )
Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )
