My biggest worry now with all this isn't so much what my wife may be doing but what affect it has on the rest of the family and our finances.
Who are you trying to kid? Fix the issue with your wife and the other problems go away. It is time for a new you to step up to the plate. Talk to her about what's missing in her relationship with you. Don't judge, justify or argue, just listen and then develop a new game strategy. Keep it honest though - she will see straight through any BS. The new you is the prototype for the future you who has a great relationship with your W. You can probably guess I'm trying to reinforce my own determination.
Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )
