Not sure what to do after ILYBNILWY

[Family Man]

Rick, I think I recognise where you are because I was there once. Some plain advice about my situation may be appropriate. I'm not preaching because I don't know the whole story and cannot expect to so take on board any or none of this as you feel appropriate.

• loss of attraction takes time
• I was ignoring her emotional needs that I didn't understand for some time
• This depletes the feeling of love slowly and relentlessly
• ILYBINILWY is a critical sign that she's almost giving up but she is reaching out
• talking about R right now will give rise to negative thoughts that could tip the R over the edge
• The only safe way forward is to build love ignoring all else
• Finding out what she's not been getting( probably for years ) is critical
• It is likely to be something that seems insignificant( to you or me ) and is easy to provide
• Demonstrating understanding of that will change her perception
• Once love is restored all the issues that were swept under the carpet must be addressed

Hope this helps you avoid a load of mistakes I made. Good Luck.