Positive signs

[Family Man]

thanks again ovrrnbw, You are right about the need to contact. I've looked at the site and, like many others, it favours the no contact approach but it doesn't really explain why it works. Last night I was thinking about it and came up with some thoughts about my situation:-

I believe she is on a 3 day trip with OM. He is using up a pile of air miles that are due to expire. I know he had hoped to use them with his wife to rebuild their relationship. If I know her at all( and I do ) she will not be sleeping well, thinking about the mess she is in. Two people trying to convince themselves they are having a good time by spending money and taking photos when they would both rather be with someone else? Developing a real bond in this situation must be tough, surely ( and I don't believe he'll outperform me in the sack ).

She comes back Wednesday, I go away for a week Thursday so no contact will be the default. I could easily believe that she will be going through the emotional roller-coaster that I have been on for weeks. Is this the sort of reason it works? Anyone been on the receiving end who could comment? Am I just being ridiculously optimistic? I must admit I am trying really hard to see positives( working on me ).