Persistent Endurance (Part 5)

[curtis7]

Options
1. Tell her: Her reaction is none of my concern
2. Don't tell her. Her reaction is none of my concern

Both options, leads you down the same path focusing on yourself, healing yourself, and loving and respecting yourself. IMO you are trying to go to Rville, in hopes of getting your WW to change her mind. Without respect and honesty, Rville will not work. Focus on honesty and respect, you want your WW to be honest and her too respect you. Be the man and take the lead. You start with being honest to her and respecting yourself.

If you are not living in those values, why are you expecting your WW too?

Joe, thanks for the reply. I’m reading your posts over and over again and it’s starting to sink in. Leading with honesty and respect is the type of relationship I want to build upon. Believe me, I’m getting there, working myself up to it.

Doing much better today. Coached S8’s baseball team this weekend and they won the tournament. He hit 5 more homers today to finish with 6 homers in 4 games. Absolutely incredible!! I get so much enjoyment out of leading these boys and showing them how to compete with good sportsmanship. I especially enjoyed handing the team trophy to the son of the deceased father that died in the motorcycle accident a couple weeks ago. He will remember it forever.

GAL continued with sprucing up the yard, soaking in the pool, going to the gym, and then out for sushi with a friend. Keeping busy kept my mind off WW and when I did think of her it was a mix of disgust and indifference. I’m going to give Rville some more thought, I may call the 800 number in the next couple days to ask some questions on what they recommend / policies on a spouse that has been or still is involved in an affair.