No contact is statistically the best shot you have. I'd check out exgfrecovery on the search engines.

It goes hand in hand with DB. In your case, what true reason do you have to contact her? Kids? House? Divorce papers? None of those right?

H 34
W 29
BD 3/12/18
Divorce Busted Spring 19

It is not things that bother us, but the stories we tell ourselves about things.