Interesting turn of events for me. I found out my XW is likely dating somebody. This person is the older brother of one of her best friends. He got divorced a year or two ago. Early in our relationship, she told me that she had sex with the older brother of one of her friends. (I'm not the jealous type and didn't care). It may or may not have been this guy. I don't remember which friend it was.
I would have never guessed my XW would have an affair, but the red flags were there. She was noticeably on her phone a lot more pre-BD and hid her phone around BD. We had a quick divorce (a monkey never jumps from a branch unless it has another branch to jump to), and it's obviously somebody she knows from before BD. Also, she went to the hometown of her friend and her friend's brother last fall after BD and before the divorce was final. Around the time of our divorce her friend got in a bad snowmobile accident, and she started going there a lot. It's possible that that is the time they reacquainted, but my gut says it was happening sooner. I guess she goes to this town every weekend she doesn't have the girls, but I learned from my younger daughter that they hang out with this guy and his daughters in the new town we are living in, and they stayed with him at his cabin on the lake one weekend--him and his daughters, my XW and our girls. It seems pretty obvious, but I didn't want to believe it before.
What's funny is the guy is not very handsome, and he isn't her type. It's going to be interesting to see how it plays out for her.
It doesn't really matter. It doesn't change my situation, but it did send my spinning--just a little. It would definitely make me respect my XW a lot less--especially after she told me there wasn't anybody else. I briefly thought about confronting her about this, but I know at this point it would make me look weak and it wouldn't matter.
On the plus side, dating is going pretty well. I'm not in a serious relationship, but I have a few women that I'm casually dating. Even got "physical" this weekend for the first time since BD last year at this time.
Again, I never had a chance, but what I did once BD hit allowed me to handle things better. I really had no control over any of this--except how I handled myself.
