I've started to ask myself if losing someone who is willing to walk away from their family such a bad thing?
jac12 this is defeatist talk and damages your cause. I know it's hard but if you treat this like a game of chess and try to enjoy trying new tactics that will surprise her that is your best hope of influencing her. Keep playing the same old game and she will only see the same old problems that got you here. Change the perspective. What more have you got to lose?
Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )
