I'm in no contact now. We were a bit closer than you imply - intending to set up home. It was more my fault than hers because of my baggage but you make a good point. As regards taking her crap I don't believe she is doing it deliberately - she is confused and I think she needs no contact more than me. I've made huge strides without the booze and fully accept my faults in the saga. She may be chronically hurt and in a rebound. She has said if he were not in the picture we would be trying again. I have tried to convey that I accept the breakup but I still want to build a new relationship with her. I'm sure she knows I'm serious. Since I posted I realised that her notes were a feeble attempt to justify her decision, not sure who to???
When I've seen her she has been tactile but not very intimate.
Do you really think no contact is powerful enough to change her mind?
Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )
