Grace, don't forget that God's plan is bigger than yours and H's too……Your thoughts are not His thoughts.
Thanks for this reminder. I asked God this morning to give me a kick in the pants when I try to take control or doubt His plan. He just did. Through you, dear Gerda.
Originally Posted by Gerda
It's ultimately not about uncertainty, but about the certainty that God's plan is what is best for you.
I like this. My focus of uncertainty is all negative energy. This is all positive energy.
Originally Posted by Gerda
I think either you think H is in MLC and don't believe anything he says/does, or you take what he says/does at face value. You seem to be straddling the fence as far as that goes.
Definitely straddling the fence. He’s lied so long I wonder if he believes them now. But, his actions to contact mortgage lenders, realtors, etc. and his continuing R with OW are all things that can only be seen in one light, IMO. At face value. But in the end, none of it matters, I guess.
Originally Posted by Gerda
I am unclear as to why you are taking on the job of telling your kids about the OW in that way. Why don't you leave that for him to do? I mean, if they ask you about it, tell the truth. Or if it comes up with them, something that would cause you to lie if you didn't tell the truth about her, then say it simply and freely. Otherwise, why are you doing H's dirty work for him?
Boy is this timely. A friend said as much just last night when I called her for guidance. I was struggling whether to contact H to pin him down on his “decision”. She said he’s the one making all the plans. He’s the one that needs to face the music and tell people (me, kids) his decision. It’s his journey, his choices. I don’t want to do his dirty work. I will wait for a while and see how it plays out. But, the last thing I want is for the kids to think I was lying to them all this time. But, actually, I’m not the one living the lie, am I? H is.
