Joejoe, Thanks for the support. Going to be a long process. Went to church this morning and her parents sat with me and my son. I spoke to them afterwards and they were really supportive. They want me to keep fighting for my marriage. Her father said fight the fight and her mother said God can change peoples heart. They just don’t understand how hard it is to get over the deception and betrayal. Knowing that it is still going on underneath my nose.
Right now she has plans of being with him. She has been telling her friends she will be leaving next year which means she will move to an assistant principal position at another school. That would allow them to get together. Now a lot has to happen for that to play out. Her AP would have to get a divorce as well as us.
One thing that has me so confused is I think she is going through a midlife crisis as well. Her libido is on super drive right now. We continue to be intimate but it is initiated by me and she doesn’t resist it. I think she just wants to have sex with this guy and not possibly be with him in the long run.
All I know for certain is that she has made up her mind she doesn’t want to be with me. Can her mind be changed? Probably not because I don’t think she will ever forgive herself therefor she will never be willing to put the work in for reconciling. I can see her going through this and possibly in two years wanting to get back into this relationship.