Today she had a totally different tone. There has been no verbal abuse. Just misundertandings. She is just in a vulnerable mindset now. She just needs time to process the D and she can move on with the new man. I'm not sure what to do right now. My concern are our kids. She has death wishes, in her relationship the word w*ore has become familiar, she doesn't know what is ok and what is not...

Me:39 W:36
S:12 D:9
T:14 M:11
Separation:sep. 1 2017
D filed oct. 2017
D finalized july 2018
OM confirmed feb 2018
D finalized July 2018

The fact is this. You have to be in pain before you can learn.