"I do believe that deep down she knows something isn't right with her but until she's ready to do some work on her end there is nothing I can do."

jac12 - there is always something you can do. I obsess about my ex all the time and it doesn't matter what I want her to do, I cannot force it. All I can change is me. I have acted in a number of ways recently that I would not have considered before. I don't recognise myself - I've changed. No success yet with her but I know she has noticed. Think outside your box and increase your chances. You may get it wrong or right but she will notice and she may choose the path you want. If she communicates surprise at your behaviour you open new avenues and you can always modify it. Good luck.

Now divorced, boys grown up. Now in new failed relationship( never again, please )